Spoon feeding children even after they can pick up the spoon themselves is the biggest mistake any parent could make. The most important step is to teach children the importance of being independent and doing things on their own. Making children do things on their own does not mean that we start giving them freedom to do anything. We need to make sure children know their boundaries and limitations. We need to keep a strict check on their web-based activities as well as other extra-curricular activities. Some children may seem harmless, but there are always a million ideas revolving on the mind of a child. You as parents need to have complete knowledge of everything before they do anything stupid.
When a child knows that if he/she fails to do something, someone else will do it for him/her; he/she will never be able to learn. This is the point where parents need to be very careful. They need to provide their children with ample space to try again and again until they finally become able to complete a particular task. Besides from letting children learn a certain things on their own, parents can also put some amount of responsibilities on them such as bringing grocery items, cleaning the kitchen, making breakfast, mowing the lawn, moping floor and so on.
After teaching children how to be responsible, it’s now time to earn their trust. The more you open up with your children, the lesser will be the chances of them indulging into immoral activities. Once you develop the habit of sharing everything, children can communicate better with you during both good and bad phases of their life. Never pressurize your children regarding education or any other decision. This will not only affect their morals, but will also generate negative outcomes in the long run.
We need to teach our children the trait of appreciating others whenever they achieve something or do something good for themselves or the society. A person can never be successful until or unless he/she learns how to appreciate others. The reason why a child becomes a bully or a cheater is because he/she has a large amount of insecurity issues. We as parents need to make sure our children are not destroying their lives by making such mistakes.
After 10 years of experience in student counseling, I have learnt one thing, that even the slightest issue can destroy a person’s life if it is not addressed at the right time. Parents of today need to maintain a fair balance between putting restrictions and allowing permissions. Too much permissions or too many restrictions can both be very dangerous for a child or a teenager. Sometimes children are not as strong as they look. They tend to mess up at particular occasions which may affect their personality or character.
In order to make your children successful human beings, become friends with them. Having money does not mean your child has become successful; making them good human beings is a greater achievement for any parent. It is very important for parents of today to make their children learn the importance of becoming good human beings rather than learning how to make money and be rich. This will not just benefit their children, but will also benefit the society.